Just got the news earlier this evening. The funeral is not tomorrow but the day after. Was advised: "People have been advised not to wear total black to the service." I have a business suit that is very, very dark blue. When I bought the suit a month ago, salesman said it may not be black but you can still wear this to funerals. Would this be appropriate since it's not 'total black', or should I be wearing a grey suit or something that is clearly not black? It's going to be an emotionally-charged funeral for me for a number of reasons but I am not going to let it show one bit.