Something personal and unrelated to photography.

Discussion in 'The Watering Hole' started by kyteflyer, Sep 6, 2017.

  1. kyteflyer

    kyteflyer ~@¿@~

    Jan 31, 2011
    Newcastle, Australia
    Sue
    I've never mentioned (at least I dont think I have) that I was adopted at birth. I had a good life as an only child, and the only real issue for me was that I didnt look like *anybody* in the adoptive family.

    Fast forward 66 years: after getting the Ancestry DNA test done, I find I have two half-brothers. One isnt interested in meeting me, the other apparently started looking for me as soon as he knew of my existence. Its a fairly long story, we have been communicating for a year now, and he and his wife are practically on the doorstep. They've come all the way from Queensland, and are staying locally in a caravan park (they travel with the van) and for various reasons not the least of which is anxiety, they wont be coming to the house.

    Tomorrow, we will be lunching together. They are staying in the area for 3 days and then moving on to Melbourne to catch up with other rellies. We will have a few meetings and long chats (unless its a disaster, you just dont know, really) and try to get a sense of each other face to face as opposed to phone or text.

    There will be photographs.
     
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  2. tonyturley

    tonyturley SC Top Veteran

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    Tony
    Hope it works out for you, Sue.
     
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  3. rayvonn

    rayvonn SC Top Veteran

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    Jan 19, 2015
    Wow, sounds like exciting and at the same time terrifying times :D. Good luck, I dare say a number of us will be thinking of you tomorrow!
     
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  4. NoSeconds

    NoSeconds SC Veteran

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    Jan 1, 2017
    Troy
    Good luck Sue, my family's messed up enough that sometimes I wish I was adopted... :biggrin:
     
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  5. bluzcity

    bluzcity SC Veteran Subscribing Member

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    Brent
    I hope it is warm and meaningful!
     
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  6. Luke

    Luke Super Moderator Subscribing Member

    Nov 11, 2011
    Milwaukee, WI USA
    Luke
    very interesting. When I look at my own family, I often wonder how we can all be so different being raised by the same parents. Hope you find what you are looking for...or at the very least have a nice lunch.
     
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  7. christilou

    christilou SC Hall of Famer

    Jul 13, 2010
    Sunny Frimley
    I can imagine that you're pretty churned up. Here's hoping for a nice outcome and perhaps some answers to questions.
     
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  8. Petach

    Petach SC All-Pro

    Oct 22, 2011
    UK, Essex
    Peter Tachauer
    Oh Gosh! Really really keeping fingers and toes crossed for you. I hope it works out the way you would like it to. It must be daunting and thrilling at the same time.......
     
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  9. john m flores

    john m flores SC All-Pro

    Aug 13, 2012
    Wow. Hope it goes well.
     
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  10. God bless on your adventures
     
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  11. kyteflyer

    kyteflyer ~@¿@~

    Jan 31, 2011
    Newcastle, Australia
    Sue
    TBH I am really anxious about it. Communicating by email and text is so different to face to face. Oh well, if its a disaster I'll send them off to Melbourne early. LOL!

    I have a headache.
     
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  12. john m flores

    john m flores SC All-Pro

    Aug 13, 2012
    Don't sweat it. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. The first time I went to the Philippines as an adult, I observed behaviors in my cousins - people I had never known - that seemed eerily familiar. It is kind of cool to see the balance between nature and nurture.
     
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  13. bilzmale

    bilzmale Super Moderator Emeritus Subscribing Member

    Jul 17, 2010
    Perth, Western Australia
    Bill Shinnick
    Will be thinking of you Sue and hope it is a meaningful encounter.
     
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  14. kyteflyer

    kyteflyer ~@¿@~

    Jan 31, 2011
    Newcastle, Australia
    Sue
    Thanks for all your good wishes! It all worked out well, and we are going to do a repeat on Saturday, before they head off again on Sunday.

    This is Wayne and Lorrae, my "new" brother and sis in law. LX100 instead of Nikon 1. Quick and easy and the B&W was accidental. I still have no idea how I managed to switch from colour, now need to find a way to switch back.

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  15. rayvonn

    rayvonn SC Top Veteran

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    Wonderful!
     
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  16. donlaw

    donlaw SC All-Pro Subscribing Member

    Sep 14, 2012
    Texas
    Don
    So cool! My sister adopted four children.
    Her oldest one found her birth mom through Facebook and then found out she had two half brother just last year at the age of 25. She met them and they attended her college graduation this year!
     
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  17. christilou

    christilou SC Hall of Famer

    Jul 13, 2010
    Sunny Frimley
    How lovely Sue :)
     
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  18. Burkey

    Burkey SC Top Veteran Subscribing Member

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    Wonderful! 'Very happy for you!
    . . . David
     
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  19. Covey22

    Covey22 SC Top Veteran Subscribing Member

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    Feb 3, 2012
    Glad it worked out, and you have new family members!
     
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